I’m in the kitchen, above the sink, washing my hands and I turn around to reach for the paper towel. But I saw none in the usual place, I assumed there was none left. Thoughts began to fill my head, “I hate when we run out.” Now I’m walking feverishly throughout the house looking for a remedy for my wet hands. Just as I started to give up hope. I noticed a full pack of Bounty in corner. As silly as this moment was, it made me think. How many times do we run around in life searching for something that is right in front of us. But we can’t see it and we definitely can’t appreciate it because it’s not in the package that we expected or in the place we imagined it to be.
If I’ve learned anything from the path that my life has taken this past year, it is that, things might not always appear to be what you want but most times, it’s exactly what you need. There are no accidents, everything that is, was ordained to be.
The first roadblock to appreciation of the moment, is expectation. We go through life thinking by 26, I’m going to be this. For me, I can tell you 26 is here and I’m most of those things but certainly not all. And that’s okay. I can dwell on the things I’m not or I can be thankful for the food in my mouth and the roof over my head, my family and friends, my new found career, my passion for writing, the progress my book has made, I can go on and on.
Release yourself of the expectations that you have placed on your life. Don’t be a slave to your own ambition. When it disrupts your joy and gratitude, then it’s as dangerous as the alternative.
The second roadblock to seeing what’s right in front of you is “destination addiction.” I learned this term just recently but it struck home. I was reading an article on XONecole,
It’s that sense of when I get there, then I will. When I get more money or when I get that promotion or when I get married, then. It’s that constant living for the next step.
It refers to “the idea that success or happiness is a destination that we are traveling to which is unfortunately limiting many of us from enjoying the ride.” As Dr. Holden author of “The Happiness Project” suggests “we are literally suffering from the pursuit of happiness, “We are always on the run, on the move, and on the go. Our goal is not to enjoy the day, it is to get through the day.”
We have to first understand that happiness is something that we create regardless of the position, place or the thing. It is not something we have to get to, we create it.
There is nothing wrong with wanting more for your life and working towards that but NOT at the expense of the moment because to be frank the moment is ALL we have. Appreciate it, relish it, experience it. There might be Bounty in the corner.
A Woman in Process