I never wanted to write. Because I thought, who would read it? Then I thought that’s exactly why I should. So here it goes, my first post!
I battle something that all of us face, insecurity. Some are just better at hiding it. So don’t pray to be like them and have their trials because what they are going through, you can never be sure. In this world of social media we have become what I dub “comparison happy”. We look at someone’s photo and wish we had that. What we fail to realize or rather acknowledge is that we only see what that person is willing to show. That is not to say that everyone is on the “gram” pretending to be XYZ. What I am saying is a picture is just a picture, be happy for the person and move on.
I try to read the book “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” every few months. The first chapter discusses the difference between object-referral and “self-referral. “The experience of the Self, or “self-referral,” means that our internal reference point is our own spirit, and not the objects of our experience. The opposite of self-referral is object-referral. In object-referral we are always influenced by objects outside the Self, which include situations, circumstances, people, and things. In object-referral we are constantly seeking the approval of others. Our thinking and our behavior are always in anticipation of a response. It is therefore fear-based.”
My brothers and sisters, what I urge you to do is reach a place of self-referral; where you are your own reference point. You can’t use him, she or her because him, she nor her grew up in the same circumstances that you did. They don’t face what you face. So how can you compare yourself to them good or bad. It’s not fair to you. Let’s be nicer to ourselves. Where you are now is exactly where you are supposed to be. If you want more then strive for it. Don’t wish, don’t want, don’t compare. Do better.
–A Woman in Process